On the ground, the game cars argue about parking lots, in the middle lie Teddy and dirty socks, the bed is besieged by crayons and paper snippets, in between holds a half full yogurt cup the position. The chaos in many children's rooms often drives mothers and fathers to despair. Children are messy. In other words, her ideas about structure and chaos often differ considerably from those of her parents. Annoying discussions about the topic of order can hardly be avoided in a household with children - but there are a number of ways to defuse the topic.
Help with age
How much a child can clean up himself depends on his age. Smaller children need help, with the tidying up of a whole room they are overwhelmed. From the age of four, children can take good care of themselves in certain areas, such as: B. the painting, building or doll's corner.
- Everyday tip: Explain what is being evacuated where: "The teddy sleeps on the shelf, the car is parked in the box." Clean up with the child and praise it.
Small tricks with effect
Stowage systems such as stackable boxes, drawer cabinets, enough shelf space are helpful here. For small stuff, with which is played constantly, is a large cloth, which is gathered up when not in use and stored in a box or a basket. Less is more: Sort together with the child old and broken toys. How to make room. A child does not have to drown in toys. Many things can be temporarily stored in the basement. And by the way gain attractiveness.
- Everyday tip: Do not smoke it has logical consequences: If the way to the bed is not free, no bedtime story can be read in the evening. If dirty plates or soiled clothes are parked in the nursery, they will not be washed either.
The older, the more responsibility
As the children get older, they may be given more responsibility for cleaning up year by year. At the age of 14 at the latest, children are able to keep their own rules. Parents of the parents should be largely omitted from this point. Only throw the vacuum cleaner with prior notice and tell your child in advance if you lend a hand in your room.
- Everyday tip: Constantly complaining without deeds brings nothing. Ranting and then doing everything yourself causes the child's ears to swerve. It learns that, although criticized, but the cleaning done anyway by itself. Do not help searching for things. For example, if your child does not find an important worksheet under a pile of paper, then they have to find it themselves.
Parents are role models
Disorder arises when one does not put things back where they belong after use. First and foremost, the parents are role models: Adults who are at loggerheads with the order itself should not be surprised if their children act the same way.
- Despite everything, disorder promotes childlike creativity. Children love their happy jumble, want to let off steam, use their toys according to their own ideas, make their room according to their own ideas, leave something behind to continue the next day. Those who demand perfection modeled on adults inhibit their development. Therefore, also close your eyes.