"The crisis of the ice is the chance of the chick, " says the vernacular, describing an experience that many people can make in the course of life and evaluate it as positive in retrospect.
What is a crisis?
A crisis is a break in the continuity and normality of our life course. This often happens frequently and unexpectedly, such as the onset of illness, accidents or other accidents. Other crises happen, for example, in transitions from one phase of life to another, or in changes and changes that life has in store for us. For some children, the transition to puberty turns into a crisis, adults experience the passage from a childless couple to parenting crisis and for many women and men, the "midlife crisis" can mean serious mental burglaries.
In all cases, drafts of life are questioned, analyzed and, at best, redesigned. If the new design succeeds, the break will become a breakthrough. If he does not succeed, the break will break down. The breaks in life are, so to speak, existential "switches" on which our lives are reorganized. But there is always the opportunity to correct the current life plan and to incorporate new patterns of behavior, ideas and ideas. We do not leave crises unchanged, we do not get away with it "unscathed". But the compelling force of change through the crisis also enables a powerful and creative new beginning.
The 4 phases of crisis management
There are always crises. They belong to human life like the air to breathe. To cope with them, we go through four different stages of coping:
- The phase of not-wanting and denying We resist the change and do not want to admit that it is not what it used to be. "I am not ill" or "It can not be that my relative died".
- The phase of awakening feelings We feel hopeless and powerless and quarrel with our destiny. Fears, insecurity, anger, guilt and self-doubt determine our thinking. "Why me?" "What have I done to make this fate happen to me?"
- The phase of reorientation We are beginning to think about ways in which direction we want to go. Possible solutions and solutions are emerging so slowly. "Maybe I could ..."
- The phase of restored balance We have come to terms with the new situation and can draw new strength from it.
We all have to go through these stages to bring a crisis to a "positive" conclusion. That does not always succeed. If reorientation and new balance remain on the track, then we not only get sick mentally, but also physically. Depression, addictiveness, physical complaints such as sleep disorders, restlessness, heart problems, gastrointestinal complaints, headaches and back pain can be the result.
What can crises cause positive?
- to appreciate life, including everyday life
- that we must and must be important
- that we did not live according to our needs
- that the meaning of life in the future is different for us
- to accept others more
- to take the partner and friends more seriously
- to rearrange our priorities
- to do more for ourselves and our health
- to treat us more cautiously
5 tips for personal crisis management
Many people rediscover their beliefs during the crisis, others focus on long-neglected friends and others seek help and support from experienced therapists. In some cases, the cause of the crisis can be eliminated, in other cases, only the positive treatment of the crisis can be the solution. However, personal crisis management should definitely include the following points:
- Think positively! The worse you judge the crisis and the less you believe in overcoming it, the more desperate you become. Thoughts like "I'll never get out of this", "Life's over" "I can not stand it" paralyze. Instead, remember situations that you have previously mastered successfully: "I have always found a solution" or "Somehow it has always worked". Talk to friends and acquaintances who have had similar experiences or seek the support of a support group. Sometimes it is easier in the initial anonymity of an unknown group to pour out their hearts.
- Find an objective conversation partner with whom you can talk about your situation. Sometimes we get so into a situation that we lose our objectivity. We can not see the scale of our problems realistically and feel bad afterwards. A diary can also help to pronounce and sort out your thoughts.
- Build relaxation phases in your everyday life! Read books in which you will find comfort and advice. Whether advisers, the Bible, poems or biographies - books offer advice, employment and relaxation in one. Music, sports and exercise are part of a personal relaxation program as well as a nice meal with friends or an afternoon at the museum. Remember the things that are good for you and schedule this activity.
- Live from day to day. Some days we are so overwhelmed that we can not imagine how we can survive this crisis. Then it's always helpful to have only one manageable day to survive: "Today I can do it, what can I do for myself today?"
- Ask yourself the question: what can I learn from this crisis? What sense can I give her in my life? Those who give meaning to the crisis open themselves to life.