Working life or everyday school life is rarely free of conflicts. But not every conflict can be put into the rubric "Mobbing". Bullying is not talked about until the attacks have been at least half a year and at least once a week. Exclusion, injustice, wrong assessment of work performance, all examples of bullying. Depending on the personality, the victims try to adapt, to defend themselves or to let everything go by. But often the reaction of the victim intensifies the activities of the bullies.
Depending on the personality, the victims try to adapt, to defend themselves or to let everything go by. But often the reaction of the victim intensifies the activities of the bullies. Once it is so far, often begins an ominous cycle: Just the idea that you want to destroy them, brings many people completely out of whack. They can not explain the aggressiveness of the colleague and start to doubt themselves.
How does bullying work?
- Do not talk to each other. Mobbing changes the communication: So z. B. talked bad about one or rumors are spread.
- Attacking the reputation of the botched, because bullying begins with a sense of insecurity.
- Manipulate work tasks. Examples: To reduce troubling tasks, to have meaningless tasks done or to work that can no longer be mastered.
Serious consequences for soul and body
The constant attacks against the personality cause constant stress in the victim. The victim feels humiliated and devalued by the terror. His need for security and recognition is constantly being undermined. That gnaws at first on self-confidence. Later it hits on health.
Initially, bullying leads to psychosomatic symptoms such as stomach and intestinal diseases in many people affected. Mostly followed by sleep and sleep disorders. The victims wake up at night, pondering for hours and torturing themselves with their problems in the workplace. During the day they are tired, limp and can only concentrate badly. The mood is getting worse and worse, the bumbling feels depressed and desperate. Many sufferers therefore suffer from depression.
Where does bullying thrive?
- Especially at the beginning (up to 25 years) and at the end of the professional career (over 55 years), the risk of falling victim to a hate campaign is highest. Beginners are particularly vulnerable. New and young employees are under great pressure to adapt and have not yet found any advocates among their colleagues.
- Job cuts, unemployment, market and competition go through to the workplace. The pressure to perform is getting bigger and bigger.
- Rigid organizational structures (hierarchy), poor working conditions or a bad working environment make working life difficult.
- Elbow mentality, career craving, lack of self-esteem, hypersensitivity or overreaction, and problems outside of work can provoke bullying.
At the latest when it comes to health problems, the victim should visit a doctor, possibly get sick leave to reconsider his situation without pressure and take appropriate measures. The spectrum ranges from anxiety-relieving medicines to the treatment of insomnia, behavioral therapy and deep psychology-based psychotherapy.
The goal of these therapies is to strengthen self-esteem. Those affected should not wait too long and hope that the psychoterror stops by itself. Also important is the contact with people who could help you, maybe have similar experiences. For example, self-help groups that are available throughout the Federal Republic are suitable.
How to prevent bullying?
- Do not maneuver yourself offside, but make social networks in the workplace with colleagues.
- Sharpen your sensitivity for the other person as well as recognize and work on your own problems and conflicts. Strengthen your own "I".
- Addressing problems (not equal) and not trying to cope alone.
- Contribute to de-escalation so you do not run into the bullying trap.