Lately, media reports of school bullying are piling up. But bullying, which can be translated as "attack" and "exclude" from English, is not a new phenomenon. It has been around for quite some time and is actually cruel everyday life in some schools. What is new, however, is the awareness of this issue and the many preventive measures offered to empower students. Bullying is a serious topic. This is not just a matter of nuisance, but a kind of psychological terror that can have catastrophic consequences for the victims' entire personality and health.
Bullying is violence for the soul
Bullying can exist in many different forms and ages and should not be confused with arguments among children and adolescents that belong to it. Because bullying is not a mere quarrel or disagreement, but a method to socially exclude a person and bring them to the edge of despair over several weeks to months or even years.
Often, the victims even feel guilty about bullying being carried out on them, and out of sheer shame, students tend not to trust their parents, teachers, or close associates. But bullying is a serious issue that requires parental and pedagogue sensitivity in dealing with their children and students. Only through education and active measures against bullying at school can this type of terror be prevented in the future.
Far-reaching consequences for the health
Whether a pupil is confronted with open or subtle bullying, in any case it can cause the student to suffer from both mental and physical stress. The consequences can be:
- Abdominal and headache
In the worst case, the students think of suicide or even execute it. In addition to the physical ailments, it should be a warning signal for parents if their child suddenly does not want to go to school anymore, skips class and withdraws completely into self. However, it is advisable that parents in a suspected case address the issue directly but at the same time gently and sensitively.
How should parents react?
First of all, parents should gain the full confidence of their child. Experts advise parents in any case from direct contact with the bullying perpetrators or even take their parents, as it may even make the whole situation worse. If parents address the perpetrators directly, their own child is weakened more and offers the attacker another attack surface.
If a conversation takes place from parents to parents, the perpetrators are usually punished by their parents for their behavior and leave their anger about it again at their bullying victims, so that a vicious circle can arise. It is best if parents of victims of mobbing inform the school and take advantage of qualified advice centers such as school social work or counseling in school psychology.
Even if one's own child is not bullied by classmates, but by teachers, parents should first turn to the school management and work together with other parents.
Many schools have formed anti-bullying groups to empower the group and provide social skills training and anti-aggression training as a preventive measure against bullying. This will empower students and learn ways to protect themselves against attacks on their own personality.
In anti-aggression training, students are taught how to approach feelings (such as anger or grief) without violence. Because the perpetrators of bullying often have a completely flawed awareness of justice. They have to learn that it is not the right way to skip their own rage at others.