The experiences we make as a child and in adolescents shape our personality in adulthood. Many behaviors - which we are often unaware of - can be traced back to inner impulses. Be fast! Give your best! Who does not know them - these sentences from childhood. They help us to get along in the world and gain security. But sometimes there comes the point where we are driven and our impostors are doomed to us.
The 5 "Inner Drivers"
- Be perfect!
- Be fast!
- Make it all right!
- Give your best!
- Be strong!
"Inner impellers" can stress ...
Impellers have brought us to where we are today - they have become part of our personality. They were created largely during our childhood under the influence of parental education or other educators such as. Eg teacher.
Basically, the drivers of speed, accuracy, kindness, effort or enthusiasm and strength are positive qualities - they helped us to achieve the current status quo of our development. However, they can also block and be restrictive or stressful, especially if they have been very strongly adopted as a principle.
Examples are: Making mistakes is bad, time is precious, everyone should like me or you should not show weaknesses. In this case, inner impellers do not lead to success, because they can not be fulfilled in their claim to absoluteness and their exclusiveness.
... or motivate
Every driver has - as far as one has become aware of it - also the possibility to confront him with one or more so-called Erlauber. These can be: I can take time for myself, I can sometimes say no, I can show feelings or I may relax. With "Permit" you create the necessary space and can free yourself from pressure. Incidentally, this is also the opportunity to develop his personality further.
Check "Inside impeller"
Within the development towards the adult one should become aware of his impulses, so that these can not have a negative effect on the life. Those who ensure clarity in work and private life, also creates the necessary space for the things that are close to the heart.
The aim is therefore to develop the awareness of which reactions are meaningful and which only trigger stress. Old impeller thoughts can then be successively replaced by new thought patterns.