They belong to the perennial favorites of our media landscape and reach an audience of millions in barely surpassing openness: the countless reports, talk shows and portrayals about love, lust and sex. In contrast, the ÄrzteZeitung recently headlined: "Terrifying how few women know about love and sex." Did we miss something? Is the idea of love = sex an equation with many unknowns and female pleasure unpredictable?
Love = lust a myth
Headaches, migraines or the wash day were once excuses for our great-grandmothers to refuse. Today, most women feel that the cycle with its hormonal fluctuations affects mood and well-being. Superficially, this means: desire for ovulation, displeasure before the rule. How can this be explained?
During the first two weeks of the cycle, an ovarian fluid matures in the ovary. During this time, the estrogen level increases tenfold. Estrogens are responsible for the good mood, verve and well-being. At the middle of the cycle, the egg bursts out of its vesicle, is released and migrates through the fallopian tube in the direction of the uterus. The so-called yellow body arises from the decaying shell of the egg-bubble. It forms the yellow-body hormone progesterone. If the egg is not fertilized, the yellow body forms back, the hormone production collapses and it comes to the menstrual period.
The corpus luteum hormone is an antagonist of estrogens. It works in most women soothing, sleep-inducing and anxiolytic. When estrogens and corpus luteum hormones fall off at the menstruation, hormone withdrawal symptoms are spoken of. These are characterized among other things by depressive moods, tension and irritability, there is no talk of lust for sex.
In this phase, many women suffer from headaches and migraines and are prone to food cravings. If the next follicle then matures and estrogens are re-formed, these symptoms disappear. Around ovulation, the desire for sex is probably greatest due to the action of male hormones.
How do the male hormones work?
The sexual hormones are also stimulated by male hormones (androgens). They even outweigh the effects of estrogens. These are testosterone and DHEA / -S (dehydroepiandrosterone / sulfate). Testosterone is produced in the ovaries, adrenal cortex and other organs. eg in adipose tissue. DHEA / -S is formed almost exclusively in the adrenal cortex and partly rebuilt from the organism to testosterone. At the time of ovulation, this increases in the short term by about 30%.
What the male hormones in women do and what they are needed for a long time was unclear. Even if there is no clear "androgen deficiency syndrome", certain signs are closely related to a deficiency of male hormones. These include:
- Sexual listlessness
- Tiredness without apparent cause
- Reduction of well-being
- Decrease in pubic hair
- Regression of the musculature.
At present, intensive research is being conducted on the development of preparations intended to compensate for an "androgen deficiency".
When frustration prevails instead of pleasure
Sexual issues are not uncommon and many couples still find it difficult to talk about sex. Obviously, there are inhibitions about sharing what, when and when they feel like it, because of shame or fear of rejection. Sexual aversion, pain during sex, orgasm problems and difficulties with sexual excitability are not just problems of older menopausal women. Younger women are just as affected and they rarely speak openly about their problems.
The initiative "female affairs" wants to help bring the conversation about sex out of the taboo zone. Prof. Dr. Elisabeth Merkle, gynecologist in Bad Reichenhall: "Our team of experts wants to close knowledge gaps and improve education".
Recognize stumbling blocks
"The persistent myth still holds true: when man and woman love each other, sex is also right." This common misconception wipes physical and psychological obstacles without further ado, stirs up feelings of insecurity and feelings of inferiority. Not only the lack of knowledge that hormones set the pace, but also everyday stress, household and work, parenting, unemployment and livelihood concerns, as well as the fear of an unwanted pregnancy often ruin the desire for sex.
Moreover, according to new findings women with diabetes, metabolic syndrome and smokers often suffer from lack of libido. Also, a possible bladder weakness should not be underestimated.
Especially if certain lust norms want to dictate the partnership desire, what is normal and what is not, loses the desire for sex their individuality. Then, voluntariness and spontaneity become a must or a pleasure dictation, and the problems of love and lust are hardened by resignation and speechlessness. The professional association of gynecologists advises to jump over their own shadow and pronounce the individual problems. Gynecologists are prepared to provide solutions for women and their partners in sexual matters.