When it comes to parenting, the ghosts divorce. With almost every new generation of mothers, the pedagogical weather situation is changing. Whereas until recently it was considered modern to harass children as little as possible with parental influences, more and more parents - according to an Allensbach survey 87 percent of Germans - now value a good nursery again. They believe that their offspring will find it easier in life to learn the rules of the game as soon as possible.
The right behavior
According to the motto "What Hänschen does not learn, Hans never learns", the food with knife and fork, sharing with others and the consideration for the eardrums of fellow humans again boom. Nicole Knaack, educator at the Techniker Krankenkasse (TK): "Children learn, above all, by looking after behavior patterns in adults." Behavior is not a matter of luck, but above all should be demonstrated by the parents. " So it is not very effective to admonish the offspring often that it is "please", "thank you" and "what?" means, even if dad and mom do not understand "What?" and "huh?" express.
Role models parents
The acceptance of manners and thus the chance to incorporate them into one's own behavior increases with children, if they can understand the meaning of this behavior. For good behavior is not only a stuffy idea of adults, but also has consequences. Children quickly learn that politeness has greater prospects of success and is more popular with others.
Above all, table manners have hygienic backgrounds. This is best understood by small children, by showing them the consequences. At the latest when someone takes their Gameboy with fat fingers into their hands, they understand the meaning of some rules.
"That does not mean that a five-year-old can eat with chopsticks, or a twelve-year-old must master the perfect hand kiss, " but the children rightly expect guidance and orientation To playfully learn from one another in a playful way, they have a hard time at the latest when they have to go into living environments where the parents are not present: in the kindergarten, in the school up to the dance class and job interview. "Children, the manners at a young age have learned later, much more self-evident and therefore more self-confident through the world. "
Following manners should children learn:
- Differentiate "my" and "yours"
- Greetings and greetings
- Wash hands before eating and do not play with food
- Wait at the table until they all start and sit until they are all done
- When coughing or yawning, hold your hand over your mouth
- Say "please" and "thank you."
- Keep eye contact while speaking
- Respect for plants and animals
- Let others talk
- Apologize for mishaps
- You and "you" differ in adults
- Getting up on public transport for elderly or disabled people, as well as parents with small children
- Can handle cutlery and napkin
- Eat silently
- Keep to agreements like times
- Protect your clothes