Everyday life with an ADHD child is not always easy and can push the affected parents to their limits. But with a few tips, everyday life can be made easier. Not all tips will strike at every child - here you have to try out individually, what works for your child and you.
Make sure you have a well-structured daily routine
Everyday life with an ADHD child is often chaotic. The children have problems structuring their actions and distinguishing important from unimportant tasks. That's why it's important to help your child in this regard. Show him how to structure an action and break down a big task into several smaller ones.
To ensure that the children can organize themselves as well as possible, a well-structured daily routine is important. If dinner is always on the table at the same time and children have to go to bed at the same time, it will be easier for them to adjust to it. On the other hand, you should avoid any surprises in your daily routine, because ADHD children usually do not get along well with this. Firm habits, on the other hand, convey security and peace.
Extraordinary appointments should be communicated to your child in good time so that there is enough time to adapt to them. But even everyday appointments should always be announced: If dinner is imminent, tell your child that there will be food in ten minutes.
to make rules
In order to avoid a chaotic everyday life, it is important that you set clear rules for living together. The rules should be enforceable - and respected by parents and children. It is best to set up the rules together with your child - so his wishes can also be taken into account. Also, make it clear to the child what the consequences are if you ignore the rules. The consequences should not be seen as a punishment but as a logical consequence of the behavior.
Among the simple rules that you should set up with your children may include the following examples:
- During the meal, everyone stays quiet at the table.
- Parents or siblings are not beaten - not even in the dispute.
- Computer games are allowed every day for 30 minutes.
- Homework is done right after school.
Reward instead of punish
ADHD children are more likely to see behaviors that are considered by others to be 'wrong'. But instead of punishing your child for such behavior, you'd better introduce a system that rewards good behavior. Praise makes sure not only with your child, but also with yourself for a good feeling. In addition, the child learns faster in this way, which behaviors are expected of him.
For example, you can develop a system that credits your child for certain behaviors. If the child has reached a certain number of points, they can be redeemed for an ice cream, a book or an outing. In the ideal case, reward not only the actual behavior, but also the effort to show a certain behavior.
Avoid difficult situations
If you realize that certain situations in everyday life prove to be particularly difficult, you should try to avoid them or at least to defuse them. Plan ahead for possible reactions from your child - so you have the opportunity to act instead of reacting.
For example, if you bring your child to the store, tell him beforehand that it should always be close to the shopping cart and not on your own make the supermarket unsafe. In return, offer him an attractive job, such as helping to choose food.
To specifically promote ADHD children
Children with ADHD are often characterized by a marked willingness to help, a strong sense of justice and a great creativity. Is your child also gifted musically or artistically? Look out for activities that will make your child happy and encourage them specifically. Supporting your child in areas where he is talented enhances his or her self-confidence.